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Superpowers

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Three superpowers that are underestimated and that will get you through most things in life more easily. Plus, a tip on how to train them.

  1. Patience, that is the superpower to give things and people their time, without imposing your view or trying to bend them. You can train this with meditation.
  2. Listening, that is the ability to sit down in a conversation without thinking at what you will say or do next. You can train this by learning about coaching.
  3. Consistence, that is the ability to show up every day, even when no one is watching you or holding you accountable. You can train this with journaling.

Take the first step

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If you want to meet somebody, take the first step.

If you would benefit from being more networked, take the first step.

If you think you should develop some skills, take the first step.

If you seek a reference for the next job application, take the first step.

If you’ve met an interesting person you want to stay in touch with, take the first step.

If you need a change in your life, take the first step.

If you crave a chat with a friend, take the first step.

Things will not just happen because you go through your day, and the first step is always the most difficult to take. Nobody else will take it for you.

Journey over destination

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Since early on, they tell us it’s going to be easy.

That most things are natural, that talent is innate, that success is overnight. That relationships are a given. That having kids is just as simple as drinking a cup of coffee. That the way you go into the world, your purpose, your principles, are going to be very clear and eventually magically manifest in front of you. Without any effort.

Instead, it’s tough.

Almost every thing that is worth something requires blood, sweat, and tears.

And that’s probably what makes it worth it.

Journey over destination.

Blow thoughts away

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A thought is just a thought.

It comes and goes. It might come back, and certainly it will go away once more.

The challenge is that often we take that thought and build our reality around it. That person is mean to mean. Nobody wants me. I am not good enough. And by doing that, we twist our reality to match the thought. The thought will stay and we become conditioned by it.

Blow thoughts away, particularly the negative, devious, perverse, mean ones. They are just thoughts, until you build them into something bigger.

Comfort

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You know what you have to do, and there are three reasons why you are not doing it.

  1. You’ve never done it before
  2. You are not motivated
  3. You don’t have the skills

Some of that might be real, some of that might just be tricks your mind plays to keep you within your comfort zone, free from risks and safe.

But you know what you have to do.

So, understand what is keeping you from doing it and work around it.