Tag: self-improvement

Small is your buddy

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Start from small.

A little thing that bothers you just a little. Something you want to change. Something you want to try. Something that’s been on your mind for a while.

Something small.

We often fail because we want to get to the end result right from the start.

We go on a diet, and we want the body we desire on week 1.

We start a blog, and we want an audience from day 1.

We land a new job, and we want to love it already on the first month.

We found a new company, and all we think about is to make it a unicorn.

Start from small instead. Break the big achievement down into small, if you need.

Small is your buddy.

Less scary

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Fear is irrational. Pretending to reason when fear kicks in is pointless.

What we can do is keep in mind that fear is one version of reality. Not the nicest one. Not the most realistic one. Just one of the many that are possible at any given time.

When you put fear in this context, things will slowly become to look less scary.

With intent

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Good job! is not feedback.

I like how you handled the situation is not feedback.

We are hiring somebody to support you is not feedback.

Performance reviews are not feedback.

The truth is, we rarely get feedback we can work with. And part of the reason is that we probably don’t like it.

We need to be asking for feedback regularly and with intent. What do you want to know? What could help you on your path? What do you feel is important to you at this stage?

Feedback is not going to happen otherwise.

Before the holidays

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Few advises for your last day before the holidays.

  • Take care of the emails early in the day. You don’t want to send out an important message while you are rushing out of the office.
  • Find the courage to say no to last minute requests. In fact, plan your day (even your week) in advance, and stick to the plan.
  • Keep the day free of meetings, and let everybody know in advance.
  • Allocate half an hour to draft a schedule for your first day back. It’s going to make your last days of vacation feel more relaxing.
  • Update your calendar for once you are back. Mark down personal commitments to avoid double bookings, send out invites for things you need to follow up with, allocate time for breaks.
  • Remove work related apps from the phone.
  • Log off 5 minutes earlier.

I promise you, when you are back, everything is still going to be there.

Enjoy the summer!

Getting used to it

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It’s not the next big thing. It’s not the role you want. It’s not the company you’d love to work for. It’s not the next 1,000 or 1,000,000 euros. It’s not the year that is starting soon or the new season.

For as much as having goals and ambitions can be fuel for your doing, make sure that does not get you burnt while you are seeking peace of mind.

In the end, it’s simply what you have here and now.

Get used to it.