It is much easier to digest a failure if you don’t look at it as the opposite of a specific success, but rather as the necessary step towards some success.
Even when it takes you far away from your goal, even when it is repeated in time, even when it looks like you are just not going to make it, failure is always capable of revealing some truth.
Sometimes it’s harsh – e.g., “this is not for you” -, but it is never definitive – e.g., “nothing is for you”.
We can’t control how others will react to us, but we can control how we behave in their presence. What and how we say and share things, how we respond to their requests, what we do when they tell something unexpected, how we are present and listen.
We over-stress about their reaction and pay little to no attention to how we can influence that. We play the part of the bystander when we actually are (one of) the main character(s).
It’s no guarantee that the other person’s will do what we hope for. But we will at least feel infinitely better.
Idols are idols only from afar, because when you keep the distance, you only see the silhouette.
And I wonder what would happen if we would direct the respect we reserve for idols to people that are close and that we see fully instead.
Idols are idols and they always disappoint.
That’s no reason to be disappointed at life as a whole and stop doing what you are here to do.
As we grow up, we get used to listening to others.
Parents, peers, friends, colleagues, bosses, partners, relatives, lurkers, fans, and haters.
All of them with their opinion of how it should be, what we should do, why we should worry, where we should go next.
But as we grow up, we also need to remember that part of that growing up is owning our own opinion. Choosing our path, unapologetically, and living according to our feelings, values, purpose.
We cannot outsource our life.
Two things I noticed when running on the treadmill.
First, the first few minutes are a real pain. Legs are heavy, breathing irregular, body tense. Makes me want to give up right away.
Second, when I focus on the screen with pace, distance, and time, running feels a lot more difficult – mentally and physically – than when I focus on the wall 10 meters ahead of me.
The point being.
Getting started is rarely pleasant. And when you eventually get started, focusing too much on what you see right in front of you will make you lose perspective and vision, therefore decreasing your motivation.
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