We lash out at people, we judge, we confine, we define, we spend most of our days commenting and evaluating what others do. And the truth is, we do not know any better.
It is perhaps our insecurity that makes us feel so certain when it comes to others.
If you are approaching the end of the year with some resolutions you wish to make, here is a tip that’s going to save you some hassle.
Start today.
There is no magical power in the beginning of a new year, no cleaner slate, to strength or power.
Start earlier instead, don’t let the resolution go stale in your mind, don’t lose the effect of the novelty, don’t let it sink before it lifts you.
Start today.
Write it down as soon as it comes to you.
When thinking of a new idea, something to add to your website, an activity you would like to try, a way to approach a difficult conversation. Write it down. As writing it down will serve three purposes.
First, you will remember it. If you keep it in your mind, it’s probably going to get lost among other things you think of, you do, you listen to, you read.
Second, you will crystallize it. It’s probably just informal and wild in your mind, and when you put it on paper (or on screen), you are forced to make sense of it, to give it shape, to tame it and make it real.
Third, you will prioritize it. Not all things you’ll write down will be worth pursuing, and therefore you will have the clarity to understand what you will take forward.
When plans fail, it might be because you have not carefully considered the initial situation.
Leaps happen, but it is much more common to have things develop slowly, thanks to incremental and non-linear progresses.
And so, a great way to start a plan is to take a careful look at where you start from. What resources you have available. What people around you want. What initial wins you can get to start momentum. What it is that you can realistically achieve without changing most of what is going on.
You might know where you want it all to end, but if you start there, that is little more than wishful thinking. Taking little steps is the surest way to achieve success.
Merry Christmas.
Assuming good intentions is truly the only way to build relationships and stay sane.
Some people might act out of malicious intents, trying to manipulate others in order to get ahead. Most though go about their lives in the exact same way as we do. They might have different ideas, points of view, preferences. But they are trying to do their best with the cards they have been dealt.
The alternative is to question everything and doubt everyone.
It is possible, and some choose that. I am not sure though they understand how much energy, attention, resources that is taking from them.
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