Mistakes are a blessing.
If you have the patience to acknowledge them, accept them, analyse them, and discuss them, they are the easiest and surest way to become better at what you are trying to do.
Tag: self-improvement
The wrong person
When you ask, you are exposed. Vulnerable.
And when you get no response, or a rejection. If you are made fun of, or are belittled. That does not mean that you asked the wrong question.
It just means you asked the wrong person.
Try again.
Tension
We live in the tension between a version of us we despise and a version of us we would like to become.
And we also live in the tension between our failures, which we see so vividly, and other people’s successes, which we fantasise a lot about.
When we get going, we often reach for the positive extreme. We are at our best and we aim to emulate those who have succeeded before. We know we can. Then we meet criticism, bad weather, rejection, difficulties of various kind, and we fall to the negative extreme. We are suddenly incapable to complete the most trivial task, unworthy of anybody’s attention, care, empathy.
Most reality, though, happens in the middle. And that’s also where we can anchor to achieve real and incremental progress.
It’s when we embrace the version of us we are today and the work we are doing today – neither bad nor good – that we get rid of the tension and we can start enjoying the journey.
Too serious
Don’t take yourself too seriously. Make sure you have enough space to even make fun of your failures, your fears, your weaknesses.
We are wired to spot the threatening, the bad, the negative. But for most of us, in our modern world, that is very often overreaction. Bombing a presentation, missing a quarter’s goals, getting rejected is not going to be defining our own persona.
Unless you let it.
Mentoring and coaching
Mentoring is when you have a what, and someone who has been there sits with you to help you figure out the how.
Coaching is when someone sits with you to help you figure out the what, the why, the how, and the when.
One way or the other, mentoring and coaching are activities in which it is worth to invest time.
Both as a giver and as a receiver.
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