In trouble

As we go about discovering who we are, we bring a whole lot of pain and joy in the lives of others. We start things, we move on, we create something new, we let it die, we search and cry, we find and cheer.

And as we witness others going about their own personal discovery, we bring a whole lot of pain and joy in our life. By making it all about ourselves.

If only we could just be. Now.


Your sadness might be caused by another person’s insecurity.

Your fear might be caused by another person’s boldness.

Your silence might be caused by another person’s loneliness.

There are different angles to the same story. And the capacity to appreciate more than one of them will help you get past whatever it is that is holding you back.

Defending boundaries

Others will always ask, demand even, that you change your mind, do something, behave in a given way. And of course, it is your responsibility to accept what you feel comfortable with and push back against what is not for you. What does not help your own goal. What does not stand for you own values. What takes you farther from your purpose.

You set the boundaries and you are the one defending them.

More aware

If someone comes to you with a critical remark on something you did, and instead of starting with “what I meant was”, you are capable to start with “I had not thought about that”, you are on the path to becoming a more aware person.

And awareness – of yourself and of others – is where everything starts.