Tag: self-improvement

How much power

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Expectations have the power to shape our reality.

When we go into a situation with low expectations, chances are we will be positively surprised. And the other way around, of course.

This is even more true, and somehow brutal, when applied to relationships. What we expect of and from people vastly impacts the way we think about them, the way we evaluate them and ultimately the way we behave with them.

Nobody can go without expectations.

But we can label them as such, and accept the fact that they are probably unrealistic, as they take only our perspective into consideration.

When we succeed in this, we open up to a whole new set of experiences we can learn from. We end up growing, gradually mitigating future expectations, and eventually behaving with people the way they wish to be treated (vs the way we wish to be treated).

Expectations are like thoughts. We decide how much power to give them.

Habit

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What habits do you know you would stick to no matter what?

Developing habits takes time and dedication, and yet once the habit becomes such, it’s the most solid thing to fall back upon in times of need.

It is worth the effort.

No shortcut

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Once you have mastered the first ten numbers – from 0 to 9 – and understood the system that gets you to 19, it is quite easy to figure out how to count to 100, 1,000, 1,000,000.

This is true for many things. You need to put in the work in the beginning to learn the basics and understand the system, then things will get gradually easier as you do more of the same.

If you keep skipping the 7 when you count 3, 4, 5, 6, 8, all you can do is repeat until you get it right.

There is no shortcut.

Finite

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At any one point in time there’s an infinite number of possibilities around you. The number of possibilities to do good is infinite as well.

Sounds like a positive thing, and it is, but if you keep moving from one possibility to the next, if you are overwhelmed by their numbers, if you lose focus distracted by the closest or fanciest one over and over again, that is equivalent to not having any possibility at all.

The understanding that you are finite and can only commit to a limited number of things in the course of your lifetime is needed to make an impact.

Inexpensive

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People around you most likely do not care about your role, your salary, the amount of money in your bank account, how many square metres your house is, in which neighbourhood you live, the cost of the suit you wear or of the car you drive.

What matters to most, instead, is presence, love, attention, affection, care. All things that are inexpensive and available to everyone. Their value is immense.