Tag: self-improvement

Your edge

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The easiest thing to do with your fear, anxiety, tiredness, stress, mistake, inadequacy, disappointment is to place them on others. Yell, demote, gossip, badmouth, exhaust, demand. It’s almost automatic to resort to these when things get tough.

The alternative is owning all of that. Knowing that’s part of you, identifying it in time, expressing it with words so that you don’t have to do it with actions. It is the long road, it is challenging and it takes time and practice to get there. And that’s where you’ll find your edge.

Burden

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What good is a category if all it does is burdening our days with indignation, anger, resentment and negativity?

It’s positive to identify as this or that, use categories to make sense of the world around us, but let’s forgo their capacity of pitching us against the others. It is just another face of resistance, and it does not serve any of our purposes.

Ready

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When a crisis hits, the human tendency is to focus on the crisis itself. Finding ways to mitigate it, get past it, sometimes leverage it.

But if you have a system, a strategy, a story you have built throughout the years, the focus should not be on the crisis. How does the system/strategy/story changes? What can you keep, what do you have to put on hold, what will you add? What can you do today that serves it and how will the crisis enhance all of this?

When you take this longer term approach, you’ll be ready to go once the crisis is over (instead of depleted of energy). It takes time, and it’s worth it.

The only way

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If you want to be successful, wake up at 4 am every day.

But actually, 4.30am is THE right time if you want to get more done.

Want to feel empowered? 5am is the time for you.

Try 6am if you want a healthy business.

Or you can go with 7am, as long as you are mindful it can ruin your health.

If you think about it, 10am is a perfectly good time too!

And since that’s the case, why not try to extend that until noon?

We are all busy trying to replicate what others do, and not quite as much actually doing our own thing. Find your way. It is the only way.

Contradictions and implications

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Not succeeding does not necessarily mean failing.

Not being right does not necessarily mean being wrong.

Not being good does not necessarily mean being bad.

Not agreeing with something does not necessarily mean opposing it.

We use categories to make sense of the world, yet categories are not dichotomies. If anything, their meaning is much better understood with a Greimas square.

Be aware of contradictions and implications, not only of contraries, when you are trying to understand what’s going on.