Tag: self-improvement

Things done right

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The moment we think: “if you want things done right, do it yourself”. That is the moment things actually stop being done.

No matter the level we reach in our career, we are not responsible for everything and we are not capable of doing everything. The illusion that telling others what needs to be done would take simply too much time, or that what lands on our desk is something we need to take care of in person, is just an excuse to postpone that difficult conversation, that report that requires your full attention, that speaking engagement you always wanted to take.

It is resistance.

By being unwilling to delegate tasks that others could reasonably help with, we fail to make progress on the important or tricky things that only we can do.

How to have a good day, Caroline Webb

P.S.: This is as true as it gets even for managers who still cling to completing tasks instead of taking responsibility for the development of their team.

Dangers and threats

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We are constantly scanning our environment for dangers and threats. And we end up seeing dangers and threats pretty much everywhere. Even when an actual danger or threat is not there, or is still just a hint of what might later become a danger or threat.

The wisest way one can spend their time is by exploring and understanding their own triggers, so that the auto-pilot can be kept under control.

Therapy and meditation are two great ways to do just that.

Overwhelmed

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What is your tactic when you fell overwhelmed?

Those moments when you cannot think clear, you have tens of forces from different places pushing on your skulls, and the amygdala is about to take control with your favourite version of fight, flight or freeze?

Moments like that happen many times throughout the days, and it is often enough to take a few deep breaths to get back on track. Ideally, you might take a full 5-minutes break to unplug. But that is not always possible, and so just breathing in and out for 4-5 consecutive times, focusing on the breath itself or on your belly going up and down, can do magic.

Give it a try.

Merely

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Acceptance is not about understanding and appreciating that the world (your friends, acquaintances, family, colleagues, your context, your work, your environment, your company) is wrong, and then spending your life complaining, regretting, plotting.

Acceptance is about understanding and appreciating that the world merely is.

What is around you does not change, it is the degree to which you attempt to cling to it that makes all the difference.

Bold

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If you have to be bold about one thing in life, be bold about picking yourself.

The time of waiting for others to pick us is over. Bosses, teachers, examiners, recruiters are nowadays just as powerful as we let them.

Be the one to pick yourself instead.

To do what you are passionate about. To do it consistently. To do it in line with your values. To do it for the rewards you decide matter. To do it wherever, and for whomever, you choose to do it.

It is scary, and it is powerful.

Let’s go.