It is often so that things don’t just disappear.
They might move a little bit farther.
They might step away from the sun.
They might hide behind a bigger thing.
They might chase you for a while.
They might try on a new outfit.
But they will still be there and you will meet them again.
The only thing you can do is to train yourself to live with them, treat them as part of the landscape, learn to give them the appropriate perspective.
There’s nothing else.
If you want a thing done well, do it yourself.
But it would be more accurate to say: if you do a thing yourself, you’ll probably consider it well done.
Because you are the only judge. You set the standard, you choose what “well” means.
Of course, that’s not practical and it does not scale. And so, at some point, you will have to work with others, who will bring a different perspective on what “well” is.
If you are open, that’s a way to progress and figure out that what you thought of as “well” was actually just “good enough”.
If you are closed, on the other hand, you will probably go on doing “good enough”, until it becomes obsolete.
Sometimes you need an easy win.
Sometimes you need somebody who does not ask you to be someone else.
Sometimes you need a change of scenery, or a change of pace, or a change of people.
Sometimes you need to get in touch.
And sometimes you just need to accept and let go.
But it is true.
You can be your own hero, even when you feel broken.
There’s arguably nothing worse than feeling alone.
And that’s not sitting on your own when working, staying home alone, walking in a forest with no one around you, or even living by yourself.
It is the feeling of being the only one who sees something, who feels something, who experiences something.
There are two good news though.
The first is that we are more similar than we think when it comes to what we see, feel, and experience. So, connection is most likely available.
The second is that we have the possibility to build that connection by sharing our version first.
Your best self is not an absolute.
You can’t pretend to be at the same level of performance in all situations, under all life circumstances, whether you are relaxed or stressed, appreciated or diminished, content or sad.
So, you have to be able to look at what is the best self you can bring to the table today, right now. And you need to accept that it might be not as much as you (and others) would expect.
That’s a good step to build kindness towards yourself.
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