You have to leverage your strengths.
Not someone else’s strengths. Not someone else’s desire of what your strengths might be. Not someone else’s take on the world that might make your strengths feel redundant.
There are infinite ways to be successful.
Invest time in finding your strengths and money in developing them further.
When you seek someone to blame, things to improve, new ways to get ahead, always start from yourself.
Not because you are not good enough, but because that’s easier to control. A new habit is possible. A change of mind is possible. An additional piece of knowledge is possible.
It’s much more complex when you start pointing fingers. You might be right and perhaps others are not doing their part, the environment is not ideal, the tools you were given are suboptimal.
Yet, things will not change just because you are right.
You can, instead.
The best way to build a relationship with others is to not treat them as if they were playing a support role in your masterpiece script.
Like the entrepreneur who can’t figure out why employees don’t care as much as they do. Or the manager who gets mad when someone resigns for a better position. Or the friend you don’t hear from anymore because you moved to the neighbouring city. Or the parent who can’t accept the fact their kids are taking a path they had never imagined for themselves.
Everyone has their own script they are working on, and when two people come together to co-author some parts of theirs, it’s a blessing, not an obligation.
We tend to forget that very easily.
You don’t care!
It just seems as if you don’t care.
When you are late in the morning, I feel like you don’t care.
When you are late in the morning, I feel frustrated, as I get to question your commitment.
The four statements all say the same thing. The way this is done, though, is extremely different. Only the last one opens the listener to what comes next.
And since we too easily tend to project our feelings on others’ behaviours – by judging the things they do under the lens of our own situation -, we need to practice how to give better feedback.
Thanks Ed Batista for the reminder.
The biggest problem with self-help books, business reviews, parenting blogs, marketing podcasts is that they give you a kick when your mind is at peace and make you feel awful the exact same moment things get hectic and you fail to follow their advice.
Hearing about what somebody else has done in similar circumstances is not going to shield us from pain, frustration, anger, and thousands of other feelings when the situation comes to us.
Life is tough, no matter what.
Finding your way, the way you can call your own and be proud of, is what you should aim for.
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