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Different hows

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When we look at others we look at how they behave, how they look, how they interact with others. We often know very little of how they feel, how they think, how they see the world around them.

When we look at ourselves we look at how we feel, how we think, how we see the world around us. We often know very little of how we behave, how we look, how we interact with others.

That’s why every judgement, every comparison, every attempt to explain is unfair and unbalanced. And we need to learn to live with this.

Ground and arms

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Change is permanent.

And there are only two things you can do about it.

First, build a solid ground. That would be knowing yourself, your situation, your story, your purpose, your triggers, your strength. A solid ground is what will allow you to not take change personally.

Second, open your arms. That would be listening to others, embracing their fears, helping them with their agendas, navigating the situation together with them, establishing long-term relationships. Open arms is what will allow you to make your solid ground even more solid.

One thing you should never do about change, and that would be trying to control it.

Battles you are not supposed to win

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Not everything is a battle.

And not everything is a battle you are supposed to win.

Everyone is a main character to their own story. They have motives, ambitions, values, fears, faults. Just because they affirm those, it does not mean you are less valuable.

The sooner you accept this very difficult truth, the more at ease you will be with life.

The biggest difference

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The biggest difference is not in goals.

We all want some more of something. Money. Success. Health. Career. Knowledge. Security. If you tell that’s what you want, it’s difficult to stand out, because our goals are incredibly similar.

The biggest difference is in method.

How are you going to get that some more?

Tell about that and you will have your own personal story.

Something you can control

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It’s not bad to be told that you’ve done a poor job, that you have played poorly in the last match, that your performance is below the expectations.

It does not have to become a personal affront or a way for you (and others) to determine the quality of your future.

Of course, it hurts. Because you have probably given it your all.

But the direction of the motion that comes out of negative feedback is something you can control.