Aim at finishing the week (on Fridays) setting a clear list of priorities for the following week.
I do one key item per weekday, one thing only that I absolutely want to get done. Then I add a few reminders or secondary tasks (e.g., call this, email that, talk to them, send newsletter, etc.).
The few times I fail to do this, my weekend is not as relaxing as when I do it. And my weeks are not as productive.
That moment you spend doing something that someone else wants you to do, and that you absolutely hate. That moment when you despise yourself, blame the other, feel like there’s no point, find faults in everything. That same moment you get angry, furious, mad, and then sad, depressed, disillusioned.
It’s just not worth it, isn’t it?
And to be clear, that does not mean “follow your passion and do what you like“.
It means find what you like and be brave enough to stick with it.
No matter what others want or say.
They too will thank you, eventually.
Most feedback features an I and a you.
I like what you did.
I feel you are not motivated enough.
I believe this is what you should do.
It’s the opinion of one person – often against the opinion of another person -, and the effectiveness of this kind of feedback depends on the status of the one giving it. Even in the best case scenario, even if the feedback gets through, it is because of compliance.
A more effective feedback features a what, an how, a why, and a couple more whats.
What happened?
How did it go? – in relation to shared goals.
Why did things go like that?
What will be different next time?
What can I do to help?
It’s the feedback that helps reflection and learning. Status has zero relevance, in fact this format can be used by anyone with anybody. And when the feedback is successful, you have lasting change.
The first is that you have to be liked. Doing something to please others is the reason why your work sucks and the very same idea that everyone could or should like you is most likely the reason why you are stuck.
The second is that success is measurable with money. It’s a very expensive fairytale and for a very large part of us it is also an excuse to never look at what matters.
The third is that commitment is forever. Very few are, and even when you have invested a lot in something, it is still fair to get to a point where you say: “thank you, I am out”.
Can you free yourself of these burdens?
Is there more?
Most definitely, there is.
But that’s the wrong question to ask, it’s a question that hides permanent dissatisfaction.
Try instead, what do I have here and now?
When you start from your current situation and accept the tools and means that you have been given, the possibility for more are truly infinite.
You've got this 