If you want to change something you deeply care about, you ought to be able to love what’s good in it.
The bad is going to kill your motivation before it gets better, so it’s important to reinforce the reason why you are in it.
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The right thing is rarely easy
Many things that matter are not easy. Even in the day-to-day.
Making time to help someone is not easy.
Speaking up when you witness racist or sexist behaviour is not easy.
Choosing not to scream every time your kids get on your nerves is not easy.
Sitting down with somebody to express your discomfort is not easy.
The point is that if you always seek the easy, if you try to find shortcuts in most situations, if your first thought is about how you can save some time, some money, some energy, it’s very likely you will often end up doing the wrong thing.
Nobody likes the version of themselves that does the wrong thing more often than the right one.
No need to be alone
Find that person who is always supporting, who cheers for you no matter what, who wants your success more than their own, who is critical with kindness, whom you genuinely enjoy talking to.
And once you have found them, do not fear asking for their help.
There’s no need to be alone in your journey.
The superior companion
If you fall in love with an outcome, you will never notice that the world around you is moving, that the context is ever changing, and that the outcome, in the end, does not provide that sense of reward you had anticipated.
If instead you fall in love with the journey, you are in the present, here and now. You see the changes, you notice the details, you are awake and ready, you have a place to fall back to when the unexpected becomes reality.
The journey is just a superior companion.
Within you
When you scream, scratch, offend, shut down, retort, bite, barricade, wound.
That’s all about you, isn’t it?
It’s not the situation, the others in the room, your boss, your partner, your kids.
It’s something deep down within you.
And when you are calm, the most you can do is go and search for it, label it, put it to rest.
It will be easier the following time.
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