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Not confident, not fearless

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Three things that will not make you nervous, that will not scare you, that will not make you lose your sleep, that will not make you cry when you are rejected.

  1. Things you don’t care about.
  2. Things that are boring for you.
  3. Things that have nothing to do with your purpose.

The point is that when are onto something that matters, you will feel anxiety and fear. That’s a sign of the stakes you are putting on that thing. What’s important is acknowledging the feelings, accepting where they come from, and finding ways to cope with them so that you can function and progress.

It’s never been about feeling confident and fearless. That’s a lie for Hollywood movies.

Places

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When the mind wanders, it takes you to wonderful places, average places, horrible places. Places that do not exist. Places that often determine your joy or sorrow.

The only thing that is real, though, is the here and now. What you are doing in this moment, the context you have around you, the possibility for you to decide to change the activity and the context. And your mood.

A wandering mind can take you places, but train the capacity to come back to reality at will.

It’s a muscle that can be strengthened.

Easy and difficult

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Registering for an online class is easy, actually attending is difficult.

Subscribing to a newsletter is easy, actually reading it with regularity is difficult.

Downloading an eBook is easy, actually taking learnings from it is difficult.

Signing up for a free trial is easy, actually implementing the tool in your team’s routine is difficult.

Making an appointment online is easy, actually showing up is difficult.

The point is that we are more and more used to take reactive actions that actually demand a proactive change. In our behaviour, in our schedule, in our focus.

From our point of view, it’s easy to mistake this with busyness and activity. From the content provider’s point of view, it’s easy to mistake this with success.

Us and them need to remember that there is a very limited amount of resources for difficult.

The overall journey

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Are you proud of your overall journey, so far?

That is to say, if you look back at some crucial points in your timeline, do you have a narrative to bind them together in a way that makes you proud?

Forget about the latest missteps, the most recent failure, the bad period, the negative feedback, the missed goal. Keep your eyes, instead, on the overall journey.

Are you proud of it?

Personal and personally

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There is a thin difference between making it personal and taking it personally.

When you make something personal it’s a sign that you care about it. It means that, whatever the outcome will be, it will along a part of you. It’s about giving a shape to something that would not be the same were you not involved. It’s affirming your identity through your work.

When you take something personally, on the other hand, it’s a sign that you care about you. You are assuming that you are the focus on the conversation, which is perfectly normal to assume, but is often untrue. It’s about taking a part of something that is going on to justify your behaviour. It’s affirming your identity through the work of others.

It’s a thin difference and an important one.