There’s not much you can do if others think poorly of you, don’t invite you out, avoid spending time with you, talk behind your back, badmouth you.
What you can do though is change the way you think of you and others.
That will shift the perspective and put the initial problem completely out of your mind.
Labels can help you anchor your experience. Knowing that you are a male, a father, a husband, a marketer, a son, a friend can help you find your identity, your group, your meaning.
But at the end of the day, when you abuse labels, you go through life with expectations that are fictitious. And you risk to force variegated experiences in boundaries that just won’t hold them.
Get into the habit to use labels for what they are, nothing more than a possibility. It’s going to be easier to get rid of them and live life to its full potential.
It’s ok to feel down.
It’s ok to have negative feelings and thoughts.
It’s ok to want to be on your own, to not want to meet people, to not feeling jolly an merry all the time.
It’s ok to want a break. It’s also ok to take a break.
None of those things make you any less normal, any less capable, any less worth.
You are never alone. And reaching out is a great way to be reminded of that.
The only promise you can always keep is: I am here, now.
And so many fail to deliver that, while attempting to keep promises that are larger than life.
Anchor your feet to the ground.
Don’t underestimate the effect of taking time.
Before sending out an important email.
Before replying to an unnerving message.
Before making a crucial decision.
Contrary to waiting, taking time is an intentional effort. It requires you to get out of the current situation and of the flow of emotions to make some distance between you and the subject of the intended action. It gives space for relaxation and reflection. It gifts clarity of mind.
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