At some point, you have to let go.
Not of things, but of your attitude towards things. Most of what happens is made worst by what we think about it, what we feel about it, what we say about it – to ourselves and to others. That’s what we need to get rid of, the part we have to let go.
Do it sooner rather than later, and you can start the process of change.
Whether you win or you lose, you need to be able to do two things.
First, appreciate your performance – which means giving an appropriate value to your role. Because whether you win or you lose this time, the outcome of the next challenge will be based on how well you understand what went well and what did not go as well.
Second, extend a hand to your opponent – no matter if it’s a person or a situation. Because whether you win or you lose this time, you ought to be able to recognize that some things are out of your control and deserve your unconditional respect.
For how long will you sit on the bench, waiting for someone to pick you, to give you instructions, to confirm your worth?
Life’s not a game with a clearly delimited field, written rules, and a given amount of players.
You are already warmed up and ready to go.
Just take the first step.
Most things last between a few seconds and a few minutes.
Then, we make them linger in the form of thoughts, feelings, desires, fears, preoccupations, so they become a central part of our life and drive our behavior.
Next time you feel angry, bored, worried, nervous, awkward, disappointed, try and sit with it without doing nothing. Nothing at all.
You’ll be surprised by how quickly that goes away.
Onto the next one.
When the sky is cloudy, is the sun still there?
That’s a powerful lesson by Daniel Sá Nogueira, coach and trainer.
That is to say, when you have problems and life seems grim, can you still be happy? Problems are problems, and happiness is happiness. They are separate things, and we should try to not mix them. And when we succeed, we will find ourselves pondering our problems while being, at the same time, happy.
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