Tag: resistance

Out of the room

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It is difficult not to be bothered by a fly in a closed room.

For as much as you force yourself into a state of flow, the fly will make its presence noticeable incessantly, and eventually you will be left with two options: either be distracted by it – shooing it away, having your pressure and heartbeat rise, calling it names, trying to catch it -, or open the room to let it out and continue your activity.

There are two points to this short and conventional story.

The first is that, more often than not, we choose the distraction over the solution. It feels easier, we don’t have to stand, it gives us a prompt and lasting excuse not to do the work (well), and it feeds an illusion of time passing.

The second is that if we want to do the work (well), we first of all need to keep flies and other distractions out of the room where the work is done.

It is that simple.

Superficial

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How much information do we consume daily? And out of that, how much information do we understand, evaluate, put into our daily practice, and eventually use to improve?

We have never been more exposed to facts, theories, news, practices, frameworks.

We have never been more superficial.

The first time

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We are rarely as nervous and preoccupied as when we attempt something for the first time. Yet, in principle most of us are ok with the idea of failure when trying something new.

The first time is a learning opportunity, a chance to put in practice some of the theory we have read about, a way to tweak the recipe and make it ours. It is the stepping stone to every rewarding activity and we should approach it with some healthy excitement and a smile.

All you need

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Focus is one of the most important things if you want to drive meaningful change. It can be trained.

Sit down thirty minutes and do your work. No distractions, no breaks, no walks to the kitchen for a snack or a glass of water, no telephone in sight, no notifications on the computer. Just plain and simple work. Do that for one day.

Then do fourty-five minutes the next day, sixty minutes the following, and ninety minutes on the fourth day. Between sixty and ninety you will find your limit. Take note and commit to sitting down, every day, and doing your work for that amount of time with no interruption or distraction. When the time is over, go on a break for ten-fifteen minutes, then back to work for the same amount of time. You should be able to do that for four to six times each day.

That really is all you need.

See the 61

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When you break an habit, particularly when it is still just an attempt to establish an habit, the tendency is to just give up the whole thing.

Perhaps you have medidated daily for two months, but then for a couple of days in a row you could not find any time to sit down and breathe. Most people would really struggle to go back to regular meditation. Despite the score being 61 to 2. That’s because we focus more on the streak than on the act itself. Once again, destination versus journey.

So when that happens, when you are breaking an habit, do not forget the work you have put in, the doing and the effort, the experience you have accumulated, the feeling of accomplishment.

Going back to it is not so impossible if what you see is the 61.