Tag: resistance

Bystanders

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We can’t control how others will react to us, but we can control how we behave in their presence. What and how we say and share things, how we respond to their requests, what we do when they tell something unexpected, how we are present and listen.

We over-stress about their reaction and pay little to no attention to how we can influence that. We play the part of the bystander when we actually are (one of) the main character(s).

It’s no guarantee that the other person’s will do what we hope for. But we will at least feel infinitely better.

Kill your idol

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Idols are idols only from afar, because when you keep the distance, you only see the silhouette.

And I wonder what would happen if we would direct the respect we reserve for idols to people that are close and that we see fully instead.

Idols are idols and they always disappoint.

That’s no reason to be disappointed at life as a whole and stop doing what you are here to do.

Loyalty

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Some people mistake performance with loyalty. It’s common in sport, for example, where players are good only for as long as they wear the right jersey. And it’s common in business, where employees get rewarded for tenure and compliance.

But while performance can be fluctuating over a period of time and in context, there is no correlation with loyalty.

One could actually argue that the capacity to be in different teams, to learn from different environments, to deliver under different circumstances, tends to increase and strengthen performance.

So, when mixing performance with loyalty, what we are really doing is judging the worth of our cause, of our principles, in a sense of our very own performance. It’s one of those cases where we let the decisions and opinions of others affect how we think we are doing.

And we should try to never let that happen.

Outsource

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As we grow up, we get used to listening to others.

Parents, peers, friends, colleagues, bosses, partners, relatives, lurkers, fans, and haters.

All of them with their opinion of how it should be, what we should do, why we should worry, where we should go next.

But as we grow up, we also need to remember that part of that growing up is owning our own opinion. Choosing our path, unapologetically, and living according to our feelings, values, purpose.

We cannot outsource our life.

Treadmill

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Two things I noticed when running on the treadmill.

First, the first few minutes are a real pain. Legs are heavy, breathing irregular, body tense. Makes me want to give up right away.

Second, when I focus on the screen with pace, distance, and time, running feels a lot more difficult – mentally and physically – than when I focus on the wall 10 meters ahead of me.

The point being.

Getting started is rarely pleasant. And when you eventually get started, focusing too much on what you see right in front of you will make you lose perspective and vision, therefore decreasing your motivation.