Tag: resistance

Scripts

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The best way to build a relationship with others is to not treat them as if they were playing a support role in your masterpiece script.

Like the entrepreneur who can’t figure out why employees don’t care as much as they do. Or the manager who gets mad when someone resigns for a better position. Or the friend you don’t hear from anymore because you moved to the neighbouring city. Or the parent who can’t accept the fact their kids are taking a path they had never imagined for themselves.

Everyone has their own script they are working on, and when two people come together to co-author some parts of theirs, it’s a blessing, not an obligation.

We tend to forget that very easily.

Time to grow

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There are many things that are potentially interesting, many opportunities that could change the course of a life, many ways you can go about business that might make your company the new hyper-celebrated unicorn.

Yet, jumping from one to the next will do you no good.

Give one thing the needed time to grow.

Keep meetings relevant

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Never walk into a meeting in which you have a relevant role – people expect you to present, to coordinate, to moderate, to organise -, without some careful preparation.

When you don’t prepare, you will either be talking too much or too little, the audience will get bored, the conversation will get all over the place, arguments will be shallow and discussions pointless. And there’s not going to be any concrete outcome. If you are not prepared for a meeting in which you have a relevant role, just cancel it.

This is also a great way to keep the numbers of meetings to a minimum. None of us is paid to prepare for meetings.

What to aim for

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The biggest problem with self-help books, business reviews, parenting blogs, marketing podcasts is that they give you a kick when your mind is at peace and make you feel awful the exact same moment things get hectic and you fail to follow their advice.

Hearing about what somebody else has done in similar circumstances is not going to shield us from pain, frustration, anger, and thousands of other feelings when the situation comes to us.

Life is tough, no matter what.

Finding your way, the way you can call your own and be proud of, is what you should aim for.

The good enough time

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We know we should add the salary ranges to our job ads, but we are reviewing the salary level for internal employees and we do not want to send the wrong message. As soon as we are done with that …

I know I should take on new challenges and find something new, but I have this very important project to take care of. As soon as I am done with that …

I know I should spend more quality time with my family, but I am having a very busy period at work. As soon as that is over …

We know we should get to posting more often on our blog, but we have no good writer in our team. As soon as we can hire one …

The fact is, there’s never a perfect time to do the things we are supposed to do.

There’s a good enough time though.

It is now.