One of the most underestimated skills is the capacity to keep at it even when faced with scarce results.
An even more underestimated skill is the capacity to let go of things you have dedicated time and resources to, once they are no longer beneficial to you and others.
Balance the two and you will own your destiny.
Not everything is a battle.
And not everything is a battle you are supposed to win.
Everyone is a main character to their own story. They have motives, ambitions, values, fears, faults. Just because they affirm those, it does not mean you are less valuable.
The sooner you accept this very difficult truth, the more at ease you will be with life.
The biggest difference is not in goals.
We all want some more of something. Money. Success. Health. Career. Knowledge. Security. If you tell that’s what you want, it’s difficult to stand out, because our goals are incredibly similar.
The biggest difference is in method.
How are you going to get that some more?
Tell about that and you will have your own personal story.
It’s not bad to be told that you’ve done a poor job, that you have played poorly in the last match, that your performance is below the expectations.
It does not have to become a personal affront or a way for you (and others) to determine the quality of your future.
Of course, it hurts. Because you have probably given it your all.
But the direction of the motion that comes out of negative feedback is something you can control.
Sometimes people fail to succeed because they can’t accept to suck.
If you want to master something, you have to get accustomed to the idea that you are going to suck. You are going to suck at the thing you want to master – for a long time, before you actually master it -, and you are going to suck at most of the other things that you are not interested in mastering. That’s why it’s easier to move from one activity to the next, averaging them all.
Success requires a close familiarity with the idea that you suck.
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