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Fabrizio3 Comments

Why do you commit to a heated discussion in the comment section of a social media post?

If it is to share your opinion, display your wit, dispense your humour, a better way is to create your own post, article, story, and share it with the world.

If it is to change minds, a better way is to engage in a one to one conversaton, and be prepared to be changed as well.

If it is to spend some free time, a better way is to read a book, go for a walk, watch a movie, reach out to a friend, play with your kids, or really anything else.

If it is to avoid work you don’t want to do, a better way is to find work you actually want to do.

There’s really no reason why one should commit to a heated discussion in the comment section of a social post. Yet those happen every day. And people lose their energy, focus, and minds to this activity.

Get back control.

Draw the line

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We know that people prefer to work for leaders who give a sense of security, who distribute responsibilities, who show a genuine interest in their direct reports, who care, who have integrity, who listen.

Yet, very few leaders do any of that.

And that could be for three reasons.

They might be not skilled enough. Many top performers are promoted into leadership roles and they simply have no experience creating an environment where people can develop and feel secure. The idea is that if you are good at making things happen, you will eventually figure that out. Of course, it rarely happens.

They might believe that those things will come when _______ (fill in the blank). When the recession is over, when the urgency of the moment has passed, when the company will grow, when the next campaign will fix everything, when the new year will come. It’s never a good time for them to take ownership.

They might be genuinely interested in themselves more than in anything else. They move from one role to the next, from one company to the next, achieving above average results, and then leaving fear and destruction behind.

There are certainly other reasons, and other types of dysfunctional leadership.

But the main point for you is that you are not going to change that. You will not convince your team lead that they need training, that the time is now, or that putting their needs second will actually serve them in the long term.

None of that is going to happen.

All you can do is decide what type of leader you want to follow and where you draw the line.

Never be the same

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The best way to approach anything new is by putting aside what you know about it.

We have been taught that experience matters more than anything else. And since today everything needs to happen now (even better, yesterday), we augment the importance of experience and try to get farther by doing more of what we have done so far.

That rarely works.

Experience matters, for sure, but it is not a good predictor of the success you are going to have in your next endeavor. And it does make sense, since the world is complex and ever-changing. What you truly need is not experience, but the capacity to put that aside and learn something new over and over again.

Your next gig might be similar to the previous one. It will never be the same.

I know nothing

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The point is not being right.

The point is feeling confident enough to take action, while at the same time feeling diffident enough to keep our senses awake.

If we spend most of the day trying to be right, we lose. We lose energy, we lose focus, we lose opportunities, we lose relationships. We lose the very same resources we need to learn and progress.

Find the motivation to do in the conviction that you don’t know.

It is self-renewing energy.

Enjoy it

Fabrizio1 Comment

There is no next step, there is no future success, there is no expected achievement.

There is just now.

And you have to learn to enjoy it.

Even when it all feels wrong.

Especially when it all feels wrong.