Tag: relationships

Nuanced

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We are parents, candidates, friends, bosses, colleagues, direct reports, volunteers, competitors, acquaintances, organisers, participants, customers, service providers, advocates, seekers, petitioners, suckers, casualties.

And of course, we are much more.

While being aware of all the roles is great, the real point is ensuring that we can still keep them somehow separated to appreciate nuances and be able to give second (and third, and fourth, and fifth) chances.

A friend coming in for an interview is still a friend AND a candidate for a position at your company.

A boss who volunteers for the organisation you’ve been involved with for years is still a boss AND a volunteer.

Somebody you don’t get along with who walks into your shop to purchase some goods is still somebody you don’t like AND a customer.

Roles do not erase each other. They add to each other.

Expanding and contracting

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What if you do not need an extra hour?

What if hiring a junior team member is not the best solution?

What if onboarding a new big customer is not what’s best for your people at this stage?

What if 30% growth is not sustainable for the type of company you want to build?

The point is not aiming to have more to achieve more. And the point is also not aiming to achieve more by having less. The point is aiming to achieve what make sense.

Over performing is not the best choice for most of us, because when we do that we take things away from other parts of our lives, from other people in our lives, from things that matter is life.

So, what is the work you want, and need, to do?

Anne Helen Petersen, The Expanding Job

Out to get you

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Sometimes it does feel like the whole world is out to get you.

Negative things pile up and you just don’t seem you can find the additional energy to fight back.

Then, don’t fight back.

Let it be, soon something positive will start showing up in your life. Even better, move the target, be the one to put good into the world, and immediately the negative streak will dissolve.

It’s never so bad that you can’t do some good.

Goodwill

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Somebody complimenting someone else is not taking anything away from you.

There’s enough goodwill in the world for everyone, it’s not a finite resource.

Somebody complimenting someone else is additive and should not be bothering you.

A viable option

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When you are tired of an exchange – with a colleague, your partner, a friend, your kid – it’s ok to be the one stopping it.

We always want to win, but sometimes, oftentimes, sending the ball back to the opposite side of the court is just not worth it. Grab the ball, say that you are sorry, and move on.

Almost nothing in life is a battle with winners and losers. Renouncing is a viable option.