Tag: relationships

Defending boundaries

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Others will always ask, demand even, that you change your mind, do something, behave in a given way. And of course, it is your responsibility to accept what you feel comfortable with and push back against what is not for you. What does not help your own goal. What does not stand for you own values. What takes you farther from your purpose.

You set the boundaries and you are the one defending them.

Closer

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When you can’t stand somebody.

When you have problems with them, can’t figure out what they stand for, have concerns about their agenda.

When you had an argument, can’t see eye to eye, really can’t understand.

When they are so different they annoy you, unnerve you, dishearten you, hurt you.

The only real thing to do is to be even closer to them. If you care about the relationship, of course.

For others

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You can explain. You can ask. You can force. You can demand. You can ghost.

But you should never decide for others.

If you decide for others, you are telling them they are not mature enough, strong enough, intelligent enough to make a decision for themselves.

That’s not something to be done lightly.

Heavy weights

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Honesty is the possibility to take a heavy weight off your mind. When you are honest about something, that thing does not clutter your thinking anymore, it no longer makes you wonder, it makes space for other things.

Just be mindful of whether that weight can be carried by the other person.

Arguments

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Two take-aways from this clip from the interview between Elon Musk and BBC reporter James Clayton.

  1. It does not matter who has your back, you have to be prepared. You have to know what you are talking about. You have to do your research. You have to have facts. And if you don’t, which is fair, because sometimes there’s just too much to know, just avoid the topic you are not prepared about altogether. Drop it.
  2. There’s a point when you are winning an argument where you need to check with the situation and concede something to the part that is losing the argument. If you don’t, you are just going for the kill, and nobody appreciates that.