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No matter what

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I wanted to buy a shirt for my son. It was a red one, with one single word on it: “Uff!”. I said it was perfect for him, since he is always complaining and he is never happy with what he is given.

He ended up buying another shirt. An orange one with a dragon on it.

The point being, people rarely want to hear what you think is better for them, who you think they are, where they should or should not focus for their development.

Instead, they want to tell you about what they think. And they want you to find it in your heart to abandon your prejudices and support them no matter what.

At all

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There’s not only joy. There’s not only pain.

There’s not only butterflies. There’s not only dullness.

There’s not only raising. There’s not only rising above.

There’s non only failure. There’s not only success.

There’s not only together. There’s not only alone.

And actually, it turns out that most of what we remember is because of the illusions we have made out of the one and the other.

We don’t know extremes. At all.

Rows and flows of angel hair
And ice cream castles in the air
And feather canyons everywhere
Looked at clouds that way

But now they only block the sun
They rain and they snow on everyone
So many things I would have done
But clouds got in my way

I’ve looked at clouds from both sides now
From up and down and still somehow
It’s cloud illusions I recall
I really don’t know clouds at all

Joni Mitchell, Both Sides Now

Existential

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Most fears, nowadays, come from within.

There’s no existential threat in acknowledging that a colleague is doing a great job, yet we worry that our work might be underappreciated.

There’s no existential threat in telling a difficult truth, yet we worry that we might be breaking a relationship forever.

There’s no existential threat in welcoming an outsider in the community, yet we worry that it might alter the balance of things and force us to review our take on the world.

There’s no existential threat in being wrong, yet we worry that others will think less of us.

We need to find a way to comfort ourselves without harming those around us.

All at once

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It’s a moment to cherish when you watch something, you witness something, you experience something, and that something gets your mind going.

It can happen with any thing.

Even with a very good movie.

Here are three thoughts inspired by Everything Everywhere All At Once.

  1. Potential – Life is a tapestry of infinite possibilities. Each choice we make (or not make) represents the path we follow. And it means forgoing all other potential paths. It’s both empowering and daunting. But it is only by accepting this truth that we open ourselves up to a newfound sense of freedom. We stop dwelling on missed opportunities and start appreciating the beauty and uniqueness of the path that was given to us.
  2. Release – A central struggle in our lives revolves around the ability to let go. We cling to our thoughts, fears, societal and cultural prejudices, and desires to control our circumstances and others’ circumstances. What if we release these attachments? By freeing ourselves from the weight of unnecessary burdens, we are ready to embrace the unknown. Within us and all around us.
  3. Interdependence – It is easier to navigate the complexities of life when we recognize the importance of relying on others. Seeking help and forming meaningful connections is not a sign of weakness, it is a testament to our strength. Interdependence grants us diverse perspectives, shared experiences, and a network of support that immensely amplifies that path are asked to accept.

The life we are living is just as meaningful as any other life we might envy, aspire to, imagine.

That’s all the potential we need.

Angles

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Your sadness might be caused by another person’s insecurity.

Your fear might be caused by another person’s boldness.

Your silence might be caused by another person’s loneliness.

There are different angles to the same story. And the capacity to appreciate more than one of them will help you get past whatever it is that is holding you back.