Creatures of habit

The place where I usually do grocery shopping recently changed the small bags for fresh produces. They used to have a type with strap handles, and now they have one with no handles. That bothered me. Because before it was easy to close them, while now they are left open, and fruit and vegetables come out when I am at the counter.

Today my 7-years old daughter came with me. She took a small bag with no handles, put pears in it, and closed it with no efforts. She took another one, put tomatoes in it, and again closed it with no efforts.

The point is that we are creatures of habit.

We tend to do things the same way we always did, even when things change, even when it does not work anymore. And that’s why it is valuable to have somebody who does things differently around, somebody who has a different background, who thinks in a different way, who never before had the chance to get used to small produce bags with handles.

The first step is to recognize we do not have all the answers. It is easier said than done.

Uncomfortable

Doubts, uncertainty, rejection, feelings of inadequacy come attached to every idea.

And the answer, of course, is not to stop having ideas, developing them, sharing them, advocating for them. The answer is getting comfortable with the uncomfortable, accepting that having ideas is but the first step in a long process that could, and actually most of the times will get you nowhere.

When you are ready for that, you might even end up somewhere. It is worth trying.

Enough people

Change does not happen because you want to.

Change happens because enough people want to.

And so, the first step towards change is figuring out what others feel about it.

You might get stressed, impatient, irritated by the whole process. But if you cannot handle that, how could you handle what is coming after things have changed?

Getting past

Life is not about avoiding problems, for the simple reason that problems, challenges, difficulties are an intrinsic part of life itself.

Life is more about identifying problems and finding the courage to stand right in front of them saying: “I will get past you”. And it is true both for the problems that surround us and for those who are within ourselves.

By the way, the better we are at dealing with the latter, the stronger and more effective we are when we tackle the former.

Dangers and threats

We are constantly scanning our environment for dangers and threats. And we end up seeing dangers and threats pretty much everywhere. Even when an actual danger or threat is not there, or is still just a hint of what might later become a danger or threat.

The wisest way one can spend their time is by exploring and understanding their own triggers, so that the auto-pilot can be kept under control.

Therapy and meditation are two great ways to do just that.