If you want kindness, be kinder.
If you want gratefulness, be grateful.
If you want support, give support.
If you want transparency and openness, be transparent and open.
If you want candour, be candid.
If you want honesty, be honest.
If you want trust, give trust.
Our environment is a reflection of how we behave, and we have the immense power to influence it.
Every day.
People who come to you with a problem is rarely asking you to find the solution.
It is about talking it through with someone, letting it all out, righting thoughts that might be taking the wrong turn.
We hear a problem, we want to fix it.
And that harms the relationship.
Stay with what you have heard, sit there and listen, nudge the other in the direction they want to go – what else? and tell me more about his.
This helps.
Remember to take a break.
When things go bad. When you feel down. When the motivation is low.
Take a break and direct your attention away from what is not working.
Learn something, instead of dedicating one more hour to the project that’s sucking your life away.
Chat with a stranger, instead of repeating the same things yet another time to the friend that is hurting you.
Grab a book, instead of checking your inbox once more waiting for the message that never comes.
You can always go back to the problem later on.
Refreshed.
Can you argue against your beliefs?
Can you make the effort to see the world from an opposite perspective, to scrutinize what you think is true, to approach the same problem from radically different angles?
And come back on the other side with a changed mindset?
If so, nothing will stop you.
Facebook is aware that its tools have damaging effects on teenagers, particularly teenage girls. They also know that troll farms manage some of the most successful pages on their platforms.
Amazon regularly hires elderly people to work in their warehouses, asking them to work 10- to 12-hour shifts in challenging conditions. They keep them motivated by praising their work ethics and promising a social experience. Amazon also has the most dangerous warehouses in the US, with twice the rate of injuries of an average warehouse.
Of course, these are big companies, under a lot of scrutiny. But for you as an individual the question is: are you ok supporting that?
Both yes and no are legitimate answers.
Just make sure you act in accordance with your choice.
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