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Train your consistency muscles

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Consistency is difficult.

Because consistency requires three difficult choices.

  1. Old over new. Consistency is about doing more of what you have already done instead of going out and pursue whatever is shining.
  2. Long-term over short-term. Consistency delivers results in the end and you can’t be expecting easy and temporary wins.
  3. Rigour over laziness. Consistency means that you will not take the easy way out, no matter how fascinating that could look.

The good thing is, you can train your consistency muscles starting from the small things, the daily habits that might seem insignificant at first.

Pay attention as you get to implement those.

How does it feel?

Follow through

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The difficult part is not taking a decision. The difficult part is to follow through with the decision.

That’s why we end up in meetings to discuss the same things over and over again, to reassess, to reconsider, to go around the table. That’s why we feel stuck, incapable of progress, lacking development and purpose. And that’s why we feel frustrated, we frustrate others, and we eventually drift away in the wrong direction.

Without judgement

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In most things we see presage, meaning, intention. That’s our way to try and control the chaos of life.

But just because our child is slow eating their lunch, it doesn’t mean they will be slow at everything as they grow up.

Just because someone has not answered our call for help, it doesn’t mean they don’t care.

Just because we have not been awarded that important role, it doesn’t mean we are less worthy of consideration.

More often then not, things merely happen. We should be brave enough to accept that without judgement and move on.

Reality is in the middle

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Two sure ways to get stuck.

  1. Blaming it all on the others.
  2. Blaming it all on yourself.

Reality is always somewhere in the middle. The only way to move forward to find the new beginning is to acknowledge that others are not out to get you, and that you are not that bad after all.

There’s always a way.

Reflection and learning

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Every ending is a new beginning.

But of course, we need to be able to appreciate the ending. To grieve. To be mad, frustrated, disappointed, sad. To stay with the negative for some time and let others know that we suffer because of the ending.

Then, we can start thinking about what “new” looks like. Because often, continuing on the same path, going back exactly where the ending broke the path, is not the best way to look for a beginning.

Every ending is a new beginning.

Let’s not use that anymore as a band aid on top of a wound, but as a process of reflection and learning.