What will the new year bring?
The end of the year is not an eraser. Just like you do not become immediately wise and adult the day you turn 18 (or 21), the new year will not give you a new you, free of old fears, uncertainties, pains, and problems.
So, the question really is: are you ready to handle all of that in 2023, and perhaps make something out of it?
If the answer is no, there is your new year resolution.
What you do at the top will cascade to the rest of your organisation.
It’s not what you say. Not what you think. It’s not your ideas or your intentions. It’s not your principles or your mission statement.
It’s what you do in the LT meeting and in the board room.
Because you are in control.
P.S.: this is valid even for very small organisations. A family, for example.
We want to be strong, but we are often fragile.
A compliment makes us feel great and unique, a critique turns us into useless and pitiful beings. The very same thing in two separate moments might give us completely different emotions. We don’t put trust in ourselves enough, yet we are ready to follow some total stranger who appear to have achieved what we apparently desire so much.
We are fragile, and perhaps the real strength is in figuring out how to navigate our fragility without being overwhelmed by it.
Labels can help you anchor your experience. Knowing that you are a male, a father, a husband, a marketer, a son, a friend can help you find your identity, your group, your meaning.
But at the end of the day, when you abuse labels, you go through life with expectations that are fictitious. And you risk to force variegated experiences in boundaries that just won’t hold them.
Get into the habit to use labels for what they are, nothing more than a possibility. It’s going to be easier to get rid of them and live life to its full potential.
The moment you make an argument personal is the moment you lose it.
If your position is right because the other is wrong, or is an idiot, or did not do a good enough job, or is not as competent, your position is extremely weak. And even if you are right, there’s no way you can prove them wrong.
Keep discussions around facts instead and be ready to accept other opinions as valid and worth your consideration.
Arguments are negotiations, and no negotiation can leave one party empty-handed.
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