If you look around for fairness, you will find little of it. Different people see the world in different ways, and fair becomes a fluid concept when you change perspective. If you look inside for fairness, on the other hand, that is something you can more easily work with. You can train it, build it, … Continue reading Fair
Tag: politics
Opposition
We often find meaning and identity in opposition. Groups get stronger when they are attacked. Their members feel closer to each other when there is a stranger around, and they find agreement when the topic is a different group. And the more we are weak, the more this happens with intensity and fervour. The less … Continue reading Opposition
The helper
You can't fight fear. You cannot pretend it is not there, you cannot walk past it, turn a blind eye to it, give it another name, a different guise, a more appealing shape. You can't run from it, outpace it, hide in the shadow of your strenghts and possessions. That is where fear will eventually … Continue reading The helper
The stranger
Every group has its own rules. And when you belong to the group, there are two things you have to do. First, you need to figure out what the rules are. This might seem trivial and simple, but actually it often takes time to dive deep into what the group cares about and how stuff … Continue reading The stranger
The time for bad
When a crisis happens, we all want to move on. But if the situation is still bad, just say it is bad, do not try to sell the idea of a positive future that nobody can envision in the moment. Of course, every crisis bears opportunities, tomorrow will be better, we will all get past … Continue reading The time for bad
Lows and highs
There is no growth without crisis, and you cannot sow seeds without breaking the ground first. Every low, no matter how desperate it might look, can be followed by the highest high you have ever experienced. No guarantee on the timing, but if you stay present, if you learn, if you develop, if you continue … Continue reading Lows and highs
Change starts within
Change is inevitable, constant, and necessary. And when you think about being an agent of change, there is one simple thing that is worth remembering: start with yourself. Changing yourself is possible, it is under your control, and chances are that by changing yourself you are also going to change the people and the world … Continue reading Change starts within
They started it!
If someone does something you would not, that is not a good reason to go and do it yourself. Sticking to your values, your best behavior, the best version of yourself is easy when everyone around is nice, pleasant, and accommodating. But can you do it also when you meet the asshole, when your boss … Continue reading They started it!
Sit or stand
In the face of adversity, we can sit down and complain, or stand up and do something. A couple of things. Sitting down and complaining makes us complicit in the adversity. If it was not our fault to begin with, it is after we make the decision to merely sit there. It does not matter … Continue reading Sit or stand
Extend your hand
When there is tension, when you feel those that are not on your side are simply too far away, when talking is arguing, when it seems impossible to find common ground. Extend your hand. https://youtu.be/zVSuooQORTU
