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Thin line

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There is a thin line between your fragility and other people’s fragility.

They often live in the same space.

I don’t like this project – It can be interpreted as an attack, a lack of trust, a doubt on your skils, a revenge for something you once said (your fragility); and at the same time, it can be a manifestation of fear, uncertainty, adversity to risk, a different mindset (other people’s fragility).

Someone not returning your greeting – It can be interpreted as a dislike, a judgement, a strong preference to not spend time with you, a way to send a clear message about the meeting that is about to begin (your fragility); and at the same time, it can be a manifestation of a cluttered mind, uneasiness around others, a disinterest towards socialization, tension for the meeting that is about to begin (other people’s fragility).

Your role is to understand the boundaries of your fragility, the words and actions that trigger it, so that you can extend from there and accept other people’s fragility and their own effort to understand them.

Take the comment on the project and appreciate that it is feeding your lack of trust in your own skills; then move towards the other and sit with them as they explore their own side.

Take the greeting that was not returned and appreciate that it is triggering your struggle to belong, then move towards the other and sit with them as they explore their own side.

When you don’t do this, the thin line grows into a thick wall.

Learnings and insights

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There are different ways to share learnings and insights.

Many keep them for themselves, at most sharing with a close circle. They see learnings and insights as an advantage in a competitive environment, and they leverage them to achieve status.

Some share them all around, perhaps doing some sort of selection based on interest. They typically do that once and then assume that everyone is in the loop and will act accordingly.

A few manage them, ensuring they are properly discussed, distributed, and acted upon. They take the time to understand who can benefit from them, they organize a space to exchange opinions, they put together the right context to do some testing, they track results that inevitably lead to further learnings and insights – starting the loop once more.

Of course, this last approach is ideal. But you can’t follow that with everything. That’s why it matters to know what is important.

Not the end of the world

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A defeat is not the end of the world.

For sure, it hurts. You’ll have to take time to process it. You will be tempted to give way to regrets, complaints, frustation, fury. And sometimes, you should. You will need to regroup with those who have been close to you all along the way. You will grieve, cry perhaps, feel like everything was pointless. You will analyse, and question, and wonder. You might be doing that for quite some time.

In the end, though, you will accept and go back to your practice. And actually, the fastest you do, the strongest you are.

Because a defeat is not the end of the world.

Tough job

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It is a challenge not to make all decisions, but when others report to you, that is the only way.

It is a challenge not to take control of every little detail, but when others report to you, that is the only way.

It is a challenge not to give your opinion on every project, but when others report to you, that is the only way.

It is a challenge not to behave as if you have all the knowledge about service, product, marketing, sales, customers, and market. But when others report to you, that is the only way.

It is a challenge not to express with words and behaviour that you are under a lot of stress and external pressure. But when others report to you, that is the only way.

Being in charge is tough job.

Fortunately, it is for you to decide if that’s for you or not.

Words of comfort

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When is the last time you gave someone words of comfort?

When is the last time you gave yourself words of comfort?

We are often harsh with others and even harsher with ourselves. We are made harsh by an environment that sees urgency, competition, threats everywhere. We need to come out on top, we need to be better, we need to be first. Chasing drifting concepts to pursue a satisfaction that will always be pushed further.

No matter where you are today, you have everything you need. You are the best version of yourself and people around you are lucky to have you in their lives. You are you, no matter what comes next.

You’ve got this.