Success, just like failure, can make you feel great or make you feel bad.
I imagine the difference is how proud you are of the effort you put in and how much you treated others according to your values while getting there.
And if you think about it, that makes the relevance of success or failure null.
Journey over destination.
To build relationships in a work environment, particularly when you have leadership responsibilities, consider the following three things.
Where are you struggling the most?
There’s what you think you are. And that’s where you should invest most of your time. Understanding what you stand for, figuring out what you like, setting your own boundaries, and managing your triggers. You have full control on this.
There’s what others think you are. And that’s something you can’t do much about. Because others will always use their past, their experiences, their fears, their dreams, their thoughts, their values, their versions of the world to process what you are doing. You just can’t change that.
And there’s what you think others think you are. And that’s dangerous. That’s when we give up figuring ourselves out and instead use others to highlight everything we don’t like about us – our body, our mind, our traits, our personality, our behavior. You are giving up control doing that.
It is so tempting to think you have the right solution.
To take things in your hands and ask of others that they do as you tell them.
To schedule just one more meeting and go through what everybody is doing, assign blame, share opinions, drive action.
To comment on everything as it is happening and inspire urgency.
To check, and double-check, and triple-check, and check just one more time.
To put people, projects, tasks into boxes and then complain that things are slow, siloed, not properly communicated.
It is so tempting to take ownership and control.
And it is the exact opposite of what you should do.
When someone shares a thing they heard or saw, it’s not only that thing they are sharing. They are also sharing some of their expectations, emotions, opinions.
Keep that mind as you aim to getting to the bottom of it.
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