There is no fight you can win without losing at least a little of the relationship underlying it.
And there is no relationship for which you won’t regret having lost even a little piece.
Pick your fights very carefully.
Tag: fear
Compensation strategy
Data about average salaries at a company, combined with data about average salaries at similar companies, is a huge and underutilized opportunity for any organization.
And not because one has to match or surpass the others, ensuring that they offer the top rates in the market. Quite the opposite, in fact. It is an opportunity because it gives the company the chance to start a conversation about an important piece of their culture and identity, and about how that compares with the rest of the market.
Money is but one motivator for most people, and not even the most relevant in many cases. Offering lower salaries and more of the rest can be a powerful statement and a winning strategy when done intentionally.
The alternative is what already happens in most cases: money as the main leverage in individual, secretive, transactional negotiations that leave each employee with the conviction that they can leave as soon as somebody will pay them more.
It is wasted potential.
Stressor
Whatever your stressor is, make the effort to confine it.
If it is work, shut it down with your laptop.
If it is family, leave it at home when you go for a walk.
If it is the news, gift yourself time when you are free of them.
One way or the other, don’t let the stressor creep into your spaces of restoration and regeneration. Little by little, the stressor will shrink and often, eventually, even go away.
Building solid boundaries is a responsibility.
Appearance and substance
The way you behave with people is at least as important as the words you speak.
The story you tell is at least as important as the subject you are narrating.
The marketing you deliver is at least as important as the product you have come up with.
The point is, there is appearance and there is substance. Pretending one does not exist just because it makes you uncomfortable is heavily limiting your own possibilities to succeed.
Make the effort to align them instead. Make behavior and words, story and subject, marketing and product go hand in hand. Bring one at the same level of the other. Make them support each other and be in harmony.
That’s when the feeling of uneasiness will just go away.
The biggest difference
A difficult step towards awareness is appreciating that we are not so special after all.
The things we think, the emotions we feel, the fears that get us stuck, the ambitions that drive us, the confusion in the face of uncertainty, the defensiveness when we fail. They are common to many and they do not make us any different from all others human beings.
Once we are fine with that, then we can dedicate time to what truly matters: how we react to all that and to an ever-changing world.
That’s where the biggest difference is.
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