Healing takes time.
You won’t probably feel much better after a pill, a visit to the doctor, a massage, a session with a therapist. But with time, those things will have an effect.
You have to give healing time. Even when it seems like you don’t have any.
When you have made up you mind about something and still struggle to follow through, share the decision with someone.
It will help you go deeper, see your arguments from another perspective, and it will point to that part of the whole that is keeping you.
We are parents, candidates, friends, bosses, colleagues, direct reports, volunteers, competitors, acquaintances, organisers, participants, customers, service providers, advocates, seekers, petitioners, suckers, casualties.
And of course, we are much more.
While being aware of all the roles is great, the real point is ensuring that we can still keep them somehow separated to appreciate nuances and be able to give second (and third, and fourth, and fifth) chances.
A friend coming in for an interview is still a friend AND a candidate for a position at your company.
A boss who volunteers for the organisation you’ve been involved with for years is still a boss AND a volunteer.
Somebody you don’t get along with who walks into your shop to purchase some goods is still somebody you don’t like AND a customer.
Roles do not erase each other. They add to each other.
You have to leverage your strengths.
Not someone else’s strengths. Not someone else’s desire of what your strengths might be. Not someone else’s take on the world that might make your strengths feel redundant.
There are infinite ways to be successful.
Invest time in finding your strengths and money in developing them further.
What if you do not need an extra hour?
What if hiring a junior team member is not the best solution?
What if onboarding a new big customer is not what’s best for your people at this stage?
What if 30% growth is not sustainable for the type of company you want to build?
The point is not aiming to have more to achieve more. And the point is also not aiming to achieve more by having less. The point is aiming to achieve what make sense.
Over performing is not the best choice for most of us, because when we do that we take things away from other parts of our lives, from other people in our lives, from things that matter is life.
So, what is the work you want, and need, to do?
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