For any recipe you have found that has worked, there are at least other ten that go in the exact opposite direction. And still work.
That’s why it is so important to find a way that matches who you are and what you stand for. A way you are absolutely and completely comfortable with. A way you would use even if no one would be watching.
In any other cases, you are just drifting.
That moment you spend doing something that someone else wants you to do, and that you absolutely hate. That moment when you despise yourself, blame the other, feel like there’s no point, find faults in everything. That same moment you get angry, furious, mad, and then sad, depressed, disillusioned.
It’s just not worth it, isn’t it?
And to be clear, that does not mean “follow your passion and do what you like“.
It means find what you like and be brave enough to stick with it.
No matter what others want or say.
They too will thank you, eventually.
No matter what your role is inside an organization, you have the power to change the things you see not working. Much more than you think you do.
You might think that those above you condone a negative behavior or a flawed process, but the reality is that most likely they are simply not aware of them. Or they don’t have the bandwidth to jump on them. Or they have initiated the behavior or the process with completely different intentions and failed to follow up.
If you hide behind that excuse, be mindful that it is just you hiding.
The first is that you have to be liked. Doing something to please others is the reason why your work sucks and the very same idea that everyone could or should like you is most likely the reason why you are stuck.
The second is that success is measurable with money. It’s a very expensive fairytale and for a very large part of us it is also an excuse to never look at what matters.
The third is that commitment is forever. Very few are, and even when you have invested a lot in something, it is still fair to get to a point where you say: “thank you, I am out”.
Can you free yourself of these burdens?
Is there more?
Most definitely, there is.
But that’s the wrong question to ask, it’s a question that hides permanent dissatisfaction.
Try instead, what do I have here and now?
When you start from your current situation and accept the tools and means that you have been given, the possibility for more are truly infinite.
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