Tag: fear

Not confident, not fearless

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Three things that will not make you nervous, that will not scare you, that will not make you lose your sleep, that will not make you cry when you are rejected.

  1. Things you don’t care about.
  2. Things that are boring for you.
  3. Things that have nothing to do with your purpose.

The point is that when are onto something that matters, you will feel anxiety and fear. That’s a sign of the stakes you are putting on that thing. What’s important is acknowledging the feelings, accepting where they come from, and finding ways to cope with them so that you can function and progress.

It’s never been about feeling confident and fearless. That’s a lie for Hollywood movies.

Giving away value

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Should you use social media to give away value or to drive traffic to one of your properties?

Marketers are so resistant to the idea of using social media to establish brand and reputation (i.e., give away value, with no direct measurement), and therefore companies often end up with marginal distribution (social media don’t like that you drive traffic away from the platform) and engagement (people don’t like to be driven away from whatever platform they are using).

This is a fantastic thread on the matter.. by somebody who has established their brand and reputation consistently giving away value.

Places

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When the mind wanders, it takes you to wonderful places, average places, horrible places. Places that do not exist. Places that often determine your joy or sorrow.

The only thing that is real, though, is the here and now. What you are doing in this moment, the context you have around you, the possibility for you to decide to change the activity and the context. And your mood.

A wandering mind can take you places, but train the capacity to come back to reality at will.

It’s a muscle that can be strengthened.

Walls

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We only see our side of the story.

That’s why when we go to someone with something that’s important for us, that becomes urgent.

That’s why when we read through an email we only notice the parts that confirm what we already know.

That’s why when we find new evidence we are sure that’s the one that will convince everybody.

And that’s also why we should be extremely careful when giving judgements, passing sentences, and building walls.

The target is to be convinced (of your values, your purpose, your views) and open (to other perspectives and versions) at the same time.

Can you do that?

The overall journey

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Are you proud of your overall journey, so far?

That is to say, if you look back at some crucial points in your timeline, do you have a narrative to bind them together in a way that makes you proud?

Forget about the latest missteps, the most recent failure, the bad period, the negative feedback, the missed goal. Keep your eyes, instead, on the overall journey.

Are you proud of it?