Tag: fear

Chatting and doing

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A chat can change it all.

It can change the frame, it can shift the narrative, it can move you forward. Instead of getting stuck in your head, seek a chat with a friend, a partner, a family member, a therapist, a coach, a colleague, a decent human being. Talking things through, even just talking about things, is powerful.

Of course, a chat cannot make things go away. So, seek a chat often, particularly in darker periods. And understand the importance of alternating the chatting with the doing.

It’s a fine art.

You’ve got this

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You.

Because you are in charge. Not your boss. Not your partner. Not your friends, colleagues, or any general circumstance. You are driving this car and you call the shots.

Have got.

Because it’s in you. Whatever it is you need, you have it. You might not have found it yet, in fact you might be searching for it right now. In articles, podcasts, gurus, and self-help books. But it’s not there, it’s in you.

This.

Because it’s up to you to choose what “this” means. Perhaps it’s money, success, fame. Happiness, tranquillity, relaxation. Family, balance, spirituality. You define it and you make it meaningful.

You’ve got this.

Our little self

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We’d like to control others. What they think of us, what they do in the projects we lead, what they care about when it’s time to buy, how they feel when we are together.

We’d like to control others, situations, circumstances, luck, misfortune, talent, success.

We’d like to control all of that and all we can control is our little self.

Better become good at that at least.

Take the first step

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If you want to meet somebody, take the first step.

If you would benefit from being more networked, take the first step.

If you think you should develop some skills, take the first step.

If you seek a reference for the next job application, take the first step.

If you’ve met an interesting person you want to stay in touch with, take the first step.

If you need a change in your life, take the first step.

If you crave a chat with a friend, take the first step.

Things will not just happen because you go through your day, and the first step is always the most difficult to take. Nobody else will take it for you.

Bring you down

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When something ends, all you want to hear is that you will be missed.

That it was great, that it’s a pity, that it’s not your fault, that memories are valuable, and that something better probably awaits you in the future.

It’s the feeling that what you did was not enough, combined with the feeling that you still have a lot to do, that will bring you down.

If you’re ending something, keep this in mind.