We think we know

We think we know, and we know nothing.

We think we know how other people feel, think, prioritise, decide.

We think we know the full picture of the situation we are in.

We think we know what’s important, what matters, what everyone should be focused on.

We think we know what’s going to happen tomorrow, and the day after tomorrow, and next week, and next month.

We think we know the consequences of our choices on ourselves and others.

We think we know the answer to the question, and the question no one is asking.

We think we know how others see us.

We think we know how we feel, think, prioritise, decide.

And we know nothing.

Accept this simple fact, and you’ll be free.

Start walking

If you are like most people, and you are not born with a well-defined passion or a recognized talent, the best thing to do is to start walking.

You might find later you are on the right track, or perhaps you will realize that some adjustments are needed. But there’s no map to your destination, no secret instructions to follow to get where you are headed.

Start walking, and own your unique trajectory.

Primal instinct

Some crises are ok to be handled quickly and instinctively. A central brain takes control, and gives instructions to the rest of the body on what to do.

If the building is on fire, an alarm will ring to tell everyone to get out.

If a person points a gun at you, you take cover.

If you see a red traffic light, you stop.

If the boat is sinking, the personnel takes the lead and everyone follows.

If the deadline is tomorrow, you stick to the plan somebody else might have drafted.

Most of the crises we meet day after day, though, are not really this kind of crises. They involve multiple people, they feature moving pieces, feelings, and opinions, they depend on personal preferences and environmental circumstances.

They are complex.

Of course, we still want to react quickly and instinctively. We want to take control and centralize decision-making, pass on instructions (to ourselves and others), and make the crisis go away. We do want that so much, that often we frame as “crisis” even fairly normal situations, just so that we can avoid thinking and start (re)acting.

That’s seldom the best thing to do.

Most crises and difficulties are actually the right moment to open up.

To ask questions, explore possibilities, hear what others would do or have done in similar circumstances, try something and possibly change direction if it’s not working, make mistakes and learn.

By all means, a decision will have to eventually be taken, and actions will have to follow. But to overcome the first, ready-made decision the brain is offering, you’ll have to be as open as you possibly can.

So, if your marketing campaign is not working, if sales are stagnating, if your product gets more negative than positive feedback, if customer service cannot keep up, if a team member is unhappy, if you did not get the funding you were expecting.

Move past your primal instict.

A step back

The fact you do not have all the necessary skills to do something you have been chosen to do can be a reason why, for a certain period, you cannot perform at your best.

But you have to make sure it does not turn into an excuse.

Being chosen is a responsibility, and you have to own it. It’s ok to leap towards something you are not perfectly confident about, that’s actually the very same idea behind leaping. Then, you have to consciously make the effort to fill the gap. So that, when you look back, the leap does not look as scary as it once did.

If for a long time you find yourself in a position for which you cannot fulfill all the duties, that makes you feel uncomfortable, for which others are demanding things you are not equipped to deliver, it is ok to take a step back.

Even if the one who chose you did not notice.

Especially if the one who chose you did not notice.

When feeling down

When you are having a tough period, double down on your practices.

Whether it’s meditation, writing, running, working, helping, or any other. Being consistent with what makes you feel good, with what gives you a sense of accomplishment, is even more important when there’s something that deeply troubles or bothers you.

And by the way, the best moment to start a practice is today.