Tag: empowerment

Moments

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When we feel pain, when we face a new crisis, when we are down and hopeless, everything becomes short term.

How will I wake up tomorrow? What will I do with this pain? How will I ever raise my head again? What is next for me?

Most of our thoughts deal with what is happening here and now. Either trying to push it away – how can I feel better? – or expanding it beyond its own boundaries – it will always be like this.

A different approach might be putting the moment in perspective. Looking at it and keeping it finite.

What am I feeling now? How likely is it that I will still feel the same next week, next month, next year? How many things will happen that will change how I feel? Was I feeling the same last week, last month, last year? Have I ever felt this way before? What did happen then?

Moments come and go, and it’s up to us for how long we want to hold onto them.

Allocation

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How much of your serenity, tranquillity, ease, peace of mind, joy comes from work, family, friends, me-time, or something else?

It’s a difficult question that probably leads to even more challenging answers. But by understanding that, we could probably better allocate time, resources, concerns, stress, stakes.

One example. If family time is what gives you strength, why worrying so much about losing that particular job, to the point you are making family time less pleasant?

Flexibility

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You need to train your capacity of letting go of ideas, projects, opinions.

Because when you get too attached to those, you risk getting your perspective on the world narrowed. And that’s when you stop learning and developing.

There’s no need to start with big things, but if you can open yourself to a different opinion, delegate a project to somebody you trust, abandon an idea that’s not taking you anywhere, and if you can do it over and over again, that is a great training for your future flexibility.

Scams

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There’s an increasing amount of people that sells get-rich-quick schemes. They leverage weakness and dissatisfaction, and they abuse platforms that don’t care about quality, or well-being, or best interest. Their quid pro quo is usually something like “give me a few hundreds euros to enroll in this class and this person will teach you how to make thousands of euros every day”.

I know it sounds great. I know it’s appealing. I know it’s a difficult time, and it will probably get more difficult before it gets easier.

But those are scams.

The only way is the long, impervious, boring, frustrating way of doing.

So take the urgency of those fake gurus and channel it towards a practice. Start now.

Detox

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A great resolution for the new year, in case you are late and wonder how to jump on the bandwagon, is to give up on your phone.

Not completely, not immediately.

Start with one hour. Leave it off, in another room. Or even better, check your weekly usage report and start with those apps that you feel are wasting the most of your time. Get rid of them, hide them, lock them.

If you manage to do it consistently for a few days in a row, it will stick, I promise.

The reward is now.