Tag: empowerment

The only way

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If you want to be successful, wake up at 4 am every day.

But actually, 4.30am is THE right time if you want to get more done.

Want to feel empowered? 5am is the time for you.

Try 6am if you want a healthy business.

Or you can go with 7am, as long as you are mindful it can ruin your health.

If you think about it, 10am is a perfectly good time too!

And since that’s the case, why not try to extend that until noon?

We are all busy trying to replicate what others do, and not quite as much actually doing our own thing. Find your way. It is the only way.

Inspiring change

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If all you give people are facts, they will take note and move on with their lives.

Give them a story they can feel and relate too, and you will have their long-term attention.

Give them empathy for their own story, and you will have them ready to change their behaviour.

Training

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I am glad you did this (for me, for the company, for our family) is not really the best way to express gratitude. It is something to say, at best, when you tolerate what was done, when you think it was not necessary yet did not hurt, when it’s about something you are quite neutral about.

Thank you is more simple and gets to the point instead. Say it often, make of it a habit, and truly mean it. Gratitude is a muscle that can be trained.

Contradictions and implications

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Not succeeding does not necessarily mean failing.

Not being right does not necessarily mean being wrong.

Not being good does not necessarily mean being bad.

Not agreeing with something does not necessarily mean opposing it.

We use categories to make sense of the world, yet categories are not dichotomies. If anything, their meaning is much better understood with a Greimas square.

Be aware of contradictions and implications, not only of contraries, when you are trying to understand what’s going on.

Hiding

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When we attempt to second guess people behaviour. When we want to figure out why somebody is acting in a certain way. When we do read the room to understand who likes us and who does not. When we catch a phrase, a movement, a gaze and we interpret it as a judgement on what we are doing or who we are. In all these cases, we put ourselves at the center, as if everything would gravitate around us.

When somebody needs a comforting word. When there’s need of a new perspective, a new approach, a new idea. When we have not heard from a person for a long time, and we miss them. When it’s time to jump on a stage and make a difference. In all these cases, we diminish ourselves, as if there’s nothing our unimportant self can do to change things.

We continuosly move from one extreme to the other, and it’s just hiding.