Not everything is a battle.
And not everything is a battle you are supposed to win.
Everyone is a main character to their own story. They have motives, ambitions, values, fears, faults. Just because they affirm those, it does not mean you are less valuable.
The sooner you accept this very difficult truth, the more at ease you will be with life.
It’s not bad to be told that you’ve done a poor job, that you have played poorly in the last match, that your performance is below the expectations.
It does not have to become a personal affront or a way for you (and others) to determine the quality of your future.
Of course, it hurts. Because you have probably given it your all.
But the direction of the motion that comes out of negative feedback is something you can control.
Sometimes people fail to succeed because they can’t accept to suck.
If you want to master something, you have to get accustomed to the idea that you are going to suck. You are going to suck at the thing you want to master – for a long time, before you actually master it -, and you are going to suck at most of the other things that you are not interested in mastering. That’s why it’s easier to move from one activity to the next, averaging them all.
Success requires a close familiarity with the idea that you suck.
Scale down.
Lower your targets.
Take a break.
Build a profitable business.
Hire one person less than what you had planned.
Stop working two hours earlier.
Do not reply to a thread unless you can really add some value.
Set sustainable and humane growth goals.
Tell your colleague to take the rest of the day off.
Focus on a niche, for real.
Reject the invite to an all-hands meeting.
Set some time a part in your calendar to develop relationships.
Keep your opinion for yourself and bring facts to the table.
Think about what is going on.
Look inside and write down how you are feeling.
Withdraw from a recruiting process that does not feel right.
All those things require a lot of courage, simply because almost nobody is doing them. That’s where you can start making your story different.
There is nothing more pointless than to act to please others.
To do things just because you hope that others will be happy with them. To show off your work just because you hope that others will appreciate it, like it, follow it. To share words of advice just because you hope that others will follow them and be happy and recognise your contribution.
Find the motivation within, be kind and fair, and accept that others will run with their lives to the best of their own circumstances.
That’s the best you can hope for.
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