Tag: empathy

Magic

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Have you ever waited for your turn to speak – and I mean truly waiting, not forming-the-next sentence-in-your-mind-while-waiting-for-the-other-to-slip waiting?

Have you ever given others the time to express themselves the way they want before correcting their annoying behaviour?

Have you ever wanted for others, sincerely, something you also wanted for yourself? Have you tried to help them achieve that rather than cutting their chances with petty complaints?

Have you ever just asked a question without immediately anticipating the answer?

If you have, you know it’s magic. And it’s just what the world needs more of.

Compliments

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Why do we reject compliments?

Why can’t we take in positive comments, appreciations, praises?

Why don’t we make of a great review as big a deal as we do of a terrible one?

We need to be able to use compliments to shield us from stress and anxiety, to write with them the soundtrack to our days, to hold them close while we build our own identity.

Say “thank you!” the next time someone compliments you. Let it sink in, make it yours. Take it.

Perspective

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There’s not much you can do if others think poorly of you, don’t invite you out, avoid spending time with you, talk behind your back, badmouth you.

What you can do though is change the way you think of you and others.

That will shift the perspective and put the initial problem completely out of your mind.

Labels

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Labels can help you anchor your experience. Knowing that you are a male, a father, a husband, a marketer, a son, a friend can help you find your identity, your group, your meaning.

But at the end of the day, when you abuse labels, you go through life with expectations that are fictitious. And you risk to force variegated experiences in boundaries that just won’t hold them.

Get into the habit to use labels for what they are, nothing more than a possibility. It’s going to be easier to get rid of them and live life to its full potential.

It’s ok

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It’s ok to feel down.

It’s ok to have negative feelings and thoughts.

It’s ok to want to be on your own, to not want to meet people, to not feeling jolly an merry all the time.

It’s ok to want a break. It’s also ok to take a break.

None of those things make you any less normal, any less capable, any less worth.

You are never alone. And reaching out is a great way to be reminded of that.