Tag: empathy

The most important person

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The most important person in the world is you.

There is no job that will make you feel great, successful, complete if you are not well.

There is no relationship that will make you feel appreciated, rewarded, loved if you are not well.

There is no friend that will make you feel important, happy, improved if you are not well.

Take good care of yourself. Before you reach out, before you help, before you start, before anything else.

Take good care of yourself and make a practice of it.

You will always be ready.

Compromised

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When you underplay a problem that was brought to your attention, you are compromising the relationship.

You might have very good reasons to do that. Perhaps the problem is not a problem to you. Perhaps you are scared the problem might jeopardize your status. Perhaps you just have no idea what to do about it. Perhaps you are set on your goals and targets and do not want to get distracted.

You pretend it is not there, and the other person is impatiently waiting for your response.

You just have to ask yourself: is it worth it?

Like what you do

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Like what you do is a much better advise than do what you like.

There is fulfillment, completeness, pride in shipping. It is an opportunity that is here and now, while on the other hand embarking in the search for a passion pushes our target always a bit farther.

Doing is all there is, and when you make of it a habit, you have already achieved your success.

They started it!

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If someone does something you would not, that is not a good reason to go and do it yourself.

Sticking to your values, your best behavior, the best version of yourself is easy when everyone around is nice, pleasant, and accommodating. But can you do it also when you meet the asshole, when your boss sets a negative example, when your group is up to something you would not normally be proud of?

They started it! is a weak excuse for grown ups.

Sit or stand

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In the face of adversity, we can sit down and complain, or stand up and do something.

A couple of things.

Sitting down and complaining makes us complicit in the adversity. If it was not our fault to begin with, it is after we make the decision to merely sit there. It does not matter if we do it because we are desperate or because we have no clue where to start from.

Standing up and doing something is always possible, even after having sat down and complained for a while. It might be to late to manage the adversity, and in that case doing something is about taking responsibility, measuring the damages, showing a way forward.

One way or the other, it is an active choice we need to make.