Tag: empathy

The mix

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Everyone would love to work for a company that says no to what is shiny and short term.

Everyone would love to work for a boss who prioritises their team’s advancements before their own.

Everyone would love to work for a company that cares about long-term impact and a lot less about quarterly reports.

Everyone would love to work for a management team who is putting their money where their mouth is.

Everyone would love to feel involved, motivated, and capable.

And yet, (almost) nobody does.

It turns out, doing what people love, what we all love, is much more difficult then writing it on a piece of paper.

It requires that mix of courage and impertinence that most people don’t have.

When you are not around

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Your legacy is not how much you will be missed when you are on holiday, when you are not in a meeting, when you will leave the company.

Your legacy is how much things can happen when you are not around.

The person you are

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Be the person you are.

Do not mimic. Don’t fall for short-cuts and recipes. Let external pressures nudge you, not crush you. Use your own stamp, not the one that someone else has crafted for you. Fit moderately. Draw boundaries where you see fit. Assert your voice in disagreements. Attract respect with pride and confidence.

The person you are will always be around.

Never discount that.

When they don’t know

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One thing worth remembering is that, with the lack of new information, people will put you in the boxes they have created for others. And they will usually put you in the most negative, catastrophic ones. The ones they built for those acquaintances who hurt them, left them, cheated on them. Because they are easy to reach and they protect them better.

If you are late with a deliverable at work, they will relate you to that past colleague who never did their job.

If you are not answering a message, they will relate you to that friend they were very attached to and they eventually lost touch with.

If you don’t say “hi” with a smile, they will relate you to that grumpy old man that lives next door and never holds the door for others.

When people don’t know, they will be fast at drawing from their previous (negative) experiences and extend them over to you.

So, if you want to stand out, over communicate. Tell how things are, what happened, what you will do, how you felt.

When people don’t know, let them know.

Not a big deal

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There’s nothing better than being thanked for the effort, for the thought, for the action.

And very rarely a “thank you” is given.

Because the things we do are not visible, as they shouldn’t be.

Because others are self-centred, as they should be.

Because what we have done is, after all, not that big of a deal.

If you are doing it for the “thank you”, stop doing it now.

Find purpose instead.