Underestimated

One of the most underestimated skills is the capacity to keep at it even when faced with scarce results.

An even more underestimated skill is the capacity to let go of things you have dedicated time and resources to, once they are no longer beneficial to you and others.

Balance the two and you will own your destiny.

Battles you are not supposed to win

Not everything is a battle.

And not everything is a battle you are supposed to win.

Everyone is a main character to their own story. They have motives, ambitions, values, fears, faults. Just because they affirm those, it does not mean you are less valuable.

The sooner you accept this very difficult truth, the more at ease you will be with life.

Matches always start 0-0

Matches always start 0-0.

That’s why it’s so fascinating to start from scratch. When the ball is still, there are infinite possibilities. We can make it, no matter our skills, no matter the environment, no matter how much of an uphill battle it might be.

Of course, there are few memorable matches that ended 0-0.

Also, that’s not a score that gets you to win the championship.

The biggest difference

The biggest difference is not in goals.

We all want some more of something. Money. Success. Health. Career. Knowledge. Security. If you tell that’s what you want, it’s difficult to stand out, because our goals are incredibly similar.

The biggest difference is in method.

How are you going to get that some more?

Tell about that and you will have your own personal story.

Powerful instincts

There are two powerful instincts we need to fight when things don’t go as we’d like.

The instinct to hide, to go ahead as if nothing happened.

And the instinct to find an immediate, easy, known answer.

In both cases, we take a shortcut, as we are basically hoping that things will magically go back to normal. It might even be the case, but it is rare.

If we can fight those forces for long enough, a more rational approach might kick in. It’s when we start looking at the situation, we collect facts and data, we formulate hypothesis, we make changes, and we reassess.

Of course, it’s more complex, and it might even get us face-to-face with some hard truths we’d prefer to escape.

And it’s still the most reliable way to move on and progress.