You can’t pretend to know what’s better for others. Not even your dear ones.
And you can’t pretend others will come to you when they need something. Or express that in a way that makes what they need clear.
What you can and should do, instead, is to be aware of and vocal about what is better for you. And be adamant about it.
It might actually be so that it will help others figure out their own stuff. Or at least, if you are the person that will help or not.
Most of the things you are not doing now you won’t be doing any time in the future.
Sure, you can take a mental note, reserve a spot on your calendar, stick a note on your screen. But truth is, more things will come to take their place, and eventually the initial task, idea, project will be erased from any list.
Figure out what matters early and get to it right away.
This tweet explains clearly why doing is more important than achieving, why action comes before motivation, why you ought to choose journey over destination.
We often get stuck trying to figure out what is the best scenario, what we want to be tomorrow, what else we can get. And the only antidote to that is doing.
What you want in life is to find those who see where you are going, your potential, your true self.
Many see where you have been, what you did wrong, where you failed, your shortcomings, your missteps, your fragility. You are the first one to see all of that and make it the focus of everything you do.
Someone who can go beyond that and still cheer for you is precious.
For a few seconds Oskar saw through Eli’s eyes. And what he saw was…himself. Only much better, more handsome, stronger than what he thought of himself. Seen with love.
John Lindqvist, Let The Right One In
The moment you can accept that others think differently, that things happen no matter what you want or what you do, that nobody out there sees you as someone intrinsically deserving praise or criticism, that’s the moment when you can find peace of mind and set to achieve your goals.
The longer you can sustain that acceptance, the better of you will be.
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