A miss can be a failure.
Or it can be a step towards success.
You decide.
Harmed
When a manager talks in a negative way of a team member, even one who is no longer part of the team, the only person who is being harmed is the manager.
Because others will figure out pretty much immediately that the manager does not have their best interest at heart. And they will go searching for somebody who does.
Good luck hiring and onboarding new people every few months.
Arguments
Two take-aways from this clip from the interview between Elon Musk and BBC reporter James Clayton.
- It does not matter who has your back, you have to be prepared. You have to know what you are talking about. You have to do your research. You have to have facts. And if you don’t, which is fair, because sometimes there’s just too much to know, just avoid the topic you are not prepared about altogether. Drop it.
- There’s a point when you are winning an argument where you need to check with the situation and concede something to the part that is losing the argument. If you don’t, you are just going for the kill, and nobody appreciates that.
Sharing feelings
Sharing feelings is tough, uncomfortable, often untimely, and slow.
But when somebody comes to you with their feelings, all you have to do is be thankful that they think you are a person with whom it’s safe to share.
Don’t break the trust. Everything else can wait.
Where we have been
We are quick to forget where we have been. The fears we’ve had, the pain we suffered, the challenges we had to face, the corners we had to cut.
And in that tiny space between where we were and where we are now we build up the judgement for those who have yet to complete their journey.
If only we could extend a helping hand instead.
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