Category: self-help

Comment section

Fabrizio3 Comments

Why do you commit to a heated discussion in the comment section of a social media post?

If it is to share your opinion, display your wit, dispense your humour, a better way is to create your own post, article, story, and share it with the world.

If it is to change minds, a better way is to engage in a one to one conversaton, and be prepared to be changed as well.

If it is to spend some free time, a better way is to read a book, go for a walk, watch a movie, reach out to a friend, play with your kids, or really anything else.

If it is to avoid work you don’t want to do, a better way is to find work you actually want to do.

There’s really no reason why one should commit to a heated discussion in the comment section of a social post. Yet those happen every day. And people lose their energy, focus, and minds to this activity.

Get back control.

I know nothing

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The point is not being right.

The point is feeling confident enough to take action, while at the same time feeling diffident enough to keep our senses awake.

If we spend most of the day trying to be right, we lose. We lose energy, we lose focus, we lose opportunities, we lose relationships. We lose the very same resources we need to learn and progress.

Find the motivation to do in the conviction that you don’t know.

It is self-renewing energy.

Enjoy it

Fabrizio1 Comment

There is no next step, there is no future success, there is no expected achievement.

There is just now.

And you have to learn to enjoy it.

Even when it all feels wrong.

Especially when it all feels wrong.

Winners

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We read of winners, and somehow we convince ourselves that if we will apply the same tactics we will be winners too.

Of course, those tactics have been used by a countless number of people, in a countless number of situations, and they did not work. We just do not hear about that.

Success is fascinating. Not only because it puts us under the spotlight, but also because it makes others blind to the sweat, stains, and tears that have put us there. There is no magic recipe. Just a story that we craft among immense difficulties and that often gives us back much less than we expected.

Enjoy the journey. It’s the only way.

Protect

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We want to protect others.

We don’t want to hurt feelings, share unpleasant truths, give negative feedback. We refrain from difficult conversations, and we let issues escalate until they become too big to be tackled. We rarely push. We almost never ask. We always assume it is not the right time.

We want to protect others. And by doing that, we protect ourselves.

It is a noble intention. Let’s just not take cover behind it every time we are not ready to leap.