Category: self-help

Repeat

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Getting in a practice of doing makes you fall in love. With the comfort, with the routine, with the known, with the already done.

You can nurture that relationship for a while. It’s a way to build stronger foundations and reliable habits. But at some point you have to say goodbye as you move on to the next stage. Not too far away, still close to the practice. Forward.

Do. Over and over again. Then stop, assess the situation, see if you are where you are supposed to be. And take a step in the right direction.

Repeat.

Find your pace

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When your breath is short, your legs heavy, your mind numb, your motivation low, there is really no reason why you should muscle through the situation.

The best thing you can do is slow down, stop even, take a few deep breaths, and find your own pace.

There is nothing more important than you living your life at a pace you can sustain. Not even an olympic medal.

Embellishment

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How many tools are you going to try before accepting that there is something deeper that needs to be addressed?

How many platforms will you sign up for before accepting that you can write also on a piece of paper?

How many videos will you consume still before accepting that it is not only by watching others performing that you will improve your skills?

How many people will you have to hire before accepting that it is the lack of a system that’s hindering your growth?

How many courses are you going to enroll for before accepting that you can learn by doing, for free, every day?

How many applications will you have to send it before accepting that it is your story you have to work on?

First get the basics in place, then worry about the embellishments.

We too often get stuck pretending that it works the other way around.

The recipe

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What is the thing you want to absolutely achieve? Tomorrow, this week, this month, this year.

What is it that you need to do to make it happen? Make a list.

Go through the list, one point at a time, and do not shift your focus until the list is done. Do rest, relax, take breaks. Particularly if the list is long. But do not invest energy, time, and meaningful work on a new shiny object.

Once you are done, reassess and celebrate the work you have done.

That’s it.

Irrelevant

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Nobody likes the idea of being irrelevant, and yet a growing incapacity to focus and control our attention is making us more irrelevant than ever.

What will you do about that?

People who multitask all the time can’t filter out irrelevancy. They can’t manage a working memory. They’re chronically distracted. They initiate much larger parts of their brain that are irrelevant to the task at hand. […] they actually think they’re more productive. They actually think they tend to – and most notably, they think they can shut it off, and that’s been the most striking aspect of this research. […] unfortunately, they’ve developed habits of mind that make it impossible for them to be laser-focused. They’re suckers for irrelevancy. They just can’t keep on task.

Clifford Nass, The Myth of Multitasking