Two sure ways to get stuck.
Reality is always somewhere in the middle. The only way to move forward to find the new beginning is to acknowledge that others are not out to get you, and that you are not that bad after all.
There’s always a way.
We all feel fear.
Fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, fear of not being useful enough, fear of being let go, fear of the unknown, fear of being alone, fear of no progress, fear of judgement, fear of failure. And probably, a thousand other fears.
We all feel that. We do.
And the problem is when that fear begins to drive action.
Failing to disclose something important during the hiring process because we might get rejected.
Telling a seemingly unimportant lie to ensure we can hide for a little longer.
Putting others down to allow our work to shine.
Turning a blind eye on a detail so that we can continue uncontested.
There is nothing more natural than fear. Embrace it rather than reject it. And make sure that, despite the fear, you will still do the right thing.
You have to leverage your strengths.
Not someone else’s strengths. Not someone else’s desire of what your strengths might be. Not someone else’s take on the world that might make your strengths feel redundant.
There are infinite ways to be successful.
Invest time in finding your strengths and money in developing them further.
Sometimes it does feel like the whole world is out to get you.
Negative things pile up and you just don’t seem you can find the additional energy to fight back.
Then, don’t fight back.
Let it be, soon something positive will start showing up in your life. Even better, move the target, be the one to put good into the world, and immediately the negative streak will dissolve.
It’s never so bad that you can’t do some good.
A big chunk of every job is managing expectations.
Of course, we want to say yes to everything. We want all the new customers and partners. We want to be perceived as competent, fast, and infallible. We want others to think that we do our work with ease even though our work is complex and uncertain. We want to project an aura of competence and confidence in any situation.
But if we do not manage expectations realistically, we will soon drown and take all those around us – colleagues, friends, family – with us.
The price is just too high.
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